After persuading someone I know to try reusable pads via my updates, I thought it was best to do a post on my cup, especially as I am in bed next to a sleeping toddler at gone 1pm after we were up all night & came for a nap just before 11am. I’ve had about an hour nap at least.

So my first attempt at the cup was quite amusing. I put it in and lasted all of 20 minutes in which time I didn’t even sit down. Could I feel it? Nope! But I was so aware that it was in there and a little freaked out which was daft really. I was also freaked out about getting it out… What if I got my cervix measurement all wrong and my shorty cup got lost up there FOREVER!? Well, it actually can’t get lost up there, as it turns out.

I did persist and build up the amount of time I used it. I was determined that this little cup was going to be awesome, and it is, though I’m still getting used to it and because of that, there have been occasions where it is in and not leaking but I’m not sure when to change it (still learning about my flow too!) and have taken it out to check on it and cursed myself as I could have left it a few more hours! It has been sooooooo brilliant to wear at work, put it in before I leave and not have to worry at all about needing to change a pad while I’m there. Well once I get it into my head that I don’t need to check on it “just in case” as I wear a back up pad for now anyway while I have the cup in. As the times I have worn it to work whilst on my period I have gone to have a look how it’s doing after just a few hours. Rookie mistake it seems. But having had the experience of emptying it in a “public bathroom” (shared with my work colleagues who quite a few know about the cup anyway) it is pretty easy, as long as you have something to wipe the cup with, like a reusable wipe which also doubles up as my “cup spot” so I can put it down, or I have a collapsible cup thing that I use to sterilise my menstrual cup in and can fill that with water to take into the stall to clean it :) it really isn’t that hard or awkward at all.

As I am still getting a stash of pads together it has also been super helpful in that when I have just 1 clean pad left I can put the cup in with it on and get all my others washed and dried, so this cycle just gone was my first disposable free one! 

I have still yet to use it overnight, hopefully this cycle I will. Each month I am more determined to get the hang of it ^_^ it’s also funny as I was having a bad time & heard of cheeky wipes 25% off over Black Friday weekend so I have a few more pads coming. At least it was something I needed and not buying for the sake of it which is something I am trying to embrace :) but I can do a post with my “stash” when I have them all.

By |December 1st, 2015|General|0 Comments

“welcome home”

On the third of October I left the flat & went to work, when I finished I went home… to the house. It was a crazy day and I felt helpless at work while my dad, brother & husband moved everything. I am so grateful to my parents and my brother and his wife for this opportunity. I would have no doubt lost my flaming mind in that flat for much longer! As I pulled up in my car a bit worried about driving my car on to the drive in the garden for the first time, I heard in my head the recording of the guy on the Disney buses when he says “and welcome home”.

We still have quite a way to go: Ikea delivery this Thursday – Dylan is going to have a wardrobe! I am excited to claim some space back in my 3 drawers! Things have been a huge squeeze in there with his clothes as well especially as we are getting 2-3 year old clothes for him now, and his 12-18 month clothes no longer fit, some of the 18-24 months stuff is a bit hit and miss. (Thankfully my sister in law left some of the boys clothes at the house for us!) PLUS we are getting a kallax for the dining room for toy storage. Things are coming together and once we have the new sofa and the wall units are purchased and put up and I have got my little craft nook for a spot of scrapbooking that I haven’t done in so so long (in Dylan’s album, he’s not been born yet!) then I will start to feel a little more settled.

That and I still have a ton of KonMari to do. But baby steps at the moment.

Speaking of baby steps, my little monkey has actually gone for a nap, hence the blog post! I haven’t had some “me time” in months! Trying to squeeze in some telly catch up too!

So how is the cherub…?

UntitledStill causing mischief. He turned 2 on Sunday 11th, the day before we had a mini tea party and Gareth’s family came to visit as I finished work at 1pm, and then on Sunday I was working 10 till 4, so he got his Miles toy before I went to work and his cards to open and he stood with a giant grin on his face watching him on the telly, Miles toy in hand. Untitled

I am loving our new kitchen too. There is so much SPACE! I took the opportunity to bake with Dylan (I say that pretty loosely, I gave him the whisks from the hand mixer to lick to keep him quiet!) and we made some banana loaf with some bananas that didn’t get eaten from the party.

UntitledI picked up this book from the library and look forward to making some stuff from here too: Untitled

Dylan just loves being outside though, so for as long as it is dry I am sure we will be wrapping up warm and heading out in the garden ^_^


I will do a short blog post soon about my first attempt with my cup, it was quite funny really, plus I have some fluffy mail on the way as I need more pads (one of them is a spiderman one!) so I can show pictures 😀

By |October 20th, 2015|Family|0 Comments

Cloth pad update


I have to admit, “pleasant” isn’t actually a word you would associate with your period, but my last one was much more tolerable :) I was using both disposables and reusables, and it was quite an experience using them both as I was able to compare them as I used them.

Some things I learned:

  • Disposables really don’t have a nice feel
  • Disposables smell awful
  • Disposables are convenient that they are smaller and can just be disposed of.
  • Blood tends to sit on the surface for a bit before being absorbed.

But then:

  • Reusables are so nice to wear
  • Much better absorbency (In my experience)
  • As I had charcoal bamboo, you could see the blood, but it wasn’t noticeable as blood (if that makes sense? It just looked “damp”, so perfect for those who are squeamish!)
  • Washing the pads wasn’t as bad as I feared. I rinsed them out first until the water ran clear and then just chucked them into a regular wash. And no staining! If I was squeamish though, I’d have taken the advice of just chucking them in their own wash cycle without even taking them of out the wash bag.
  • They are surpringly discreet! I had mine in my small wet bag, but even if you just have the pad, if it was folded up, no one would have a clue that you had a pad in your hand and might think it was a purse or something.
  • They are a little bulky storage wise though, when folded up.
  • Handling used pads wasn’t bad either :) even when I was at work, which I worried would have been an issue. I just folded the used pad up and poppered it closed and put straight into the wet bag.
  • There isn’t a bad smell with reusables! Another reason that putting a used pad in my work bag wasn’t an issue :) one thing I found surprising is that the blood doesn’t have a smell per se, but it did give me flashbacks of after having Dylan and the lochlia: though the maternity pads were huge and bulky they said that they shouldn’t smell as if it did it would signal an infection so it was something to be mindful of.

My cup arrived too, and I was very intrigued! I gave it a quick test (or a “dry run”) so put it in and took it out. I have to admit, I’m a bit scared! I managed it ok, but I guess it will be a bit like contact lenses. I was freaked out and convinced I would never be able to “touch my eye” but I did it just fine (though as it turned out, contacts weren’t for me!) my meluna cup cost £11 and will last for many years so I am determined to give it a good go. It will be a completely different experience once it is in and I’m going about my day. I will be using the cup alongside my reusable pads until I am confident enough of how frequently I need to empty it and that I have it positioned correctly.

I also came across the monthly box from which is where I bought my cup from. I’m thinking that would be a nice treat sometime :)

By |September 15th, 2015|General|0 Comments

Please standby…

UntitledWe took a little time to destress yesterday by colouring in my book. I had some Disney Junior colouring prints – somewhere – but can’t find them. That seems to be a major issue with a lot of stuff. I have a “notice to quit” form for our flat to return to the council that we’ve always had… Somewhere. Dylan has a drum and one of the drumsticks is somewhere. The latest “somewhere” item is Dylan’s dinosaur jigsaw from Uncle Stewart and Aunty Claire (which is awesome because the pieces can be played with), but I cannot find all the pieces, though I had them all on Monday. We live in just 4 rooms, and there’s just **too much stuff**. It should be impossible to lose certain things but we still seem to manage to do that anyway. I have been planning a “home tour” to upload to YouTube. Once I record it, of course. And then doing one when we move. I’m hoping it is not going to be one of those things I intend to do but don’t get around to.

One of the good things about moving I suppose is that we will be forced to face all of our belongings and to save ourselves hauling lots of stuff to the new house. I actually read an article that someone wrote how they moved and never unboxed a fair few boxes even after being in their new home for months. They figured they could just get rid of it. I know that will be the case for a LOT of stuff in our attic, minus the Christmas, baby things and our weekend bag. I need to remind myself that when I see the books etc that they have been out of mind and I haven’t missed them one bit, so they can safely go.

While I don’t think we would be full on minimalists, I have been drawing inspiration from it (one reason I suppose why I was drawn to the konmari method. Which I have stalled on. Someone kick me up my arse please & shake some sense of why I am doing it in the first place) the less stuff we own would make for an easier & less stressful life, that I do believe. It has given me lots of ideas, hopefully for future posts.

My first go with the cloth pads FYI, was AMAZING but that is for another post very soon, as I also have my first cup on the way – a meluna. I also don’t do change very well so I’m already dealing with the feeling of finding it hard to breathe but at the same time trying to realise how much we all need this. Sure it’s not going to erase the issues of my husband’s long commute and therefore meaning he isn’t home so much plus me working weekends so time spent together is limited. But we are hoping the night time situation will improve with Dylan having his own room (I seriously hope!)
We have so much to do. Sigh.

So as I press post on these ramblings, it might be worth noting as to why the “standby” title. I have been waiting for a call from the solicitor this afternoon as there was a small bit of hope that we would be exchanging contracts today but that seems unlikely. Fingers crossed for Monday though!

By |September 4th, 2015|Family, General|0 Comments

Making the switch to reusables

We signed the contracts! We are so close now :)

I am currently mid “Week In The Life”. As much as I would love to promise a post on it, I just don’t know if/when I will, but I hope to. (The cot shot is from nap time today, the others are from various days)


Now I will do an advanced “TMI” warning for anyone who is of a squeemish disposition, however it’s all completely natural stuff I will be sharing, but I can already tell you no guy wants to read past this paragraph… (more…)

By |August 20th, 2015|General|0 Comments

Waiting in limbo

Toddlers…. Just… My goodness! Just as I was making use of my time during his naps, he decides that some days he doesn’t want one, which is fine, we all know he’s never been a good sleeper, but man those days he doesn’t want a nap are the days I need a sit down the most! And the tantrums… the evil tantrums!!

He has been enjoying fun and free activities such as:

  • Spinning in the computer chair. All I have to do is turn him and wait for him to say “STOP!” and when he wants to go again he says “Ready. Steady. GO!” or simply “Go!”
  • Sitting in the drivers seat of my car. I sit in the back, I have an old 99 Reg car so there’s no buttons or anything he can do damage to thankfully. Though on hot days when I’m driving, I wish I had air con or electric windows LOL, but for playtime is is awesome, I sit in the backseat with the door open (my rear doors aren’t linked to the light, just the front doors, so no issues of draining the car battery) We both get fresh air because we can’t play in the garden & he can’t get out unless he tries to get past me first to the open door. Bonus of being down a quiet cul-de-sac really, that we can play together outside safely that way. Though I am constantly telling him not to stand out on the road, however quiet it is, because it is dangerous. Cul-de-sac or not. He ignores me, but I will get there.
  • Helping me with chores. He likes to hold onto the vacuum cleaner while I’m cleaning to “help”, also while I’m washing up, he goes into the one cupboard that doesn’t have a strap closure on it to get out the scales, colander etc to play with (just this morning, the colander when on top of the scales and inside the colander went his silicone baby food freezer tray thing), and he likes a couple of pans and a wooden spoon and alternates between “cooking”/”eating” and “playing drums”.


We had a family holiday together, Gareth had the week off, I booked the weekend off, and Nana came along too. Dylan enjoyed the beach a lot as well as the swimming pool. I ended up taking him to our local leisure centre as I heard they had a toddler pool and we will be going there again, even though he always wants to run off and I had a very hard time trying to keep him next to me (thankfully the changing cubicles had lower sides, as once he crawled under a changing room door to escape! And when he went to go down on the floor I immediately knew what he was up to anyway) but swimming lessons for him will be on my list.

He can be very affectionate, he gives me kisses and cuddles, and seriously makes up for all the other little things he does (this morning, I had to tell him off because he bit me!)

I think this has to be the worse part, just waiting around, when we are so desperate to move already. I have no clue what on earth is going on, and my parents were last in touch with the solicitor and were waiting on some documents in the post, as I asked my mum on Tuesday. I have been under a great deal of stress these last couple of weeks (as has Gareth) and it seems this week was just breaking point for me. Gareth thankfully managed to get home for 7pm the other day as I just needed big hugs. I really cannot wait to move!! I have hit a slight road block with Konmari  (bloody paper category!) and then part of me thinks it might be easier to do as we start to pack, but then I think that would be a very bad idea as it’ll be a mess as it is so I don’t need to add to it and then it’s less stuff to sort through to pack if I do it before.
I have no doubt a large part of that stress is stupid clutter! I know if we would have ended up staying here longer that we would have made some changes in the flat (brand new sofa bed in the lounge that 2 people can sleep on comfortably, would have put our bed and mattress in storage and got Dylan a wardrobe of his own, the bedroom would then be his, and we would continue to declutter – that would have been the only solution). I have a book on reservation at the library called “stuffocation” to read when it comes in.

By |July 30th, 2015|General|1 Comment

June latest

Well the end of May, Dylan finally got to have his hair cut :) He was alright to begin with but near the end he had enough and didn’t want the lady to cut his hair anymore lol, but I think it turned out great and he looked so grown up afterwards! Of course, I got absolutely soaked as we had a huge downpour that morning.


I’m doing my best to take some time out for myself during nap time & indulge a little every now and then. This last Friday, I got a fancy bottle of raspberry lemonade and it was goooooooooood! I put my feet up and caught up on one of my favourite TV shows: The Goldbergs. It’s new to us over here so they are showing an episode every night at 7.30pm and we are nearing the end of season 2.


We had a “fun” lunch on that same Friday and we made our own Lunchables, though Dylan just wanted to eat the crackers LOL.


Monkey likes to climb up on one of his boxes and look out the living room window (we are upstairs so good view lol)


When we had some gorgeous weather, we went to the park to play and in the car park ready to come home he climbed into the drivers seat!


and this was yesterday, another lovely day after storms at the weekend, when I just didn’t bother getting him dressed after a trip to the doctors (my poor little guy has an infection, so has antibiotics & steroids) so left him in just a vest until it started to get chilly.



Was super cute rubbing some Savlon cream into his hand this morning (he fell over at active tots yesterday and scraped his hand really badly) and he was laughing because it was tickling him :)

YNAB has been purchased, if you are interested, I can save you $6 :) just use my link here:

Konmari: My books donated to library, started on paper category now, and managed to start tidying up the mess at the end of the bed this morning because it had gotten out of control.

If you weren’t aware yet either, WE ARE GOING TO BE MOVING IN A FEW MONTHS! Yippee! I have such an amazing supportive family who are helping make this happen :)

By |June 16th, 2015|Family, General|0 Comments

On the up!

My little artist made a pretty picture (with the help of mummy of course) at group the other week, and it seemed fitting that it wasn’t just displayed at home but also as my Facebook Header picture, because that is equal to the fridge at home, right? LOL



The Konmari journey is going slooooooooow.


However, even if we have only done some of our clothes so far, I have certainly noticed a difference! As you can see above, this is mine and Dylan’s “bottoms” drawer with trousers, shorts etc in. Dylan’s clothes no longer fit in the plastic craft tower thing, and there most certainly isn’t enough room for him to have his own wardrobe/drawers, so Dylan’s stuff is in with mine. He has a “row” down the right hand side of my drawers. Even Gareth has embraced it and sorted his clothes out too, and it is so much easier to find and get to those things. Granted I am still feeling ridiculously overwhelmed about all the other categories but knowing how much our clothes is better makes me super determined to declutter!


I have new glasses, but since I got them Wednesday last week, I’ve not had much time to wear them. Dylan notices my glasses are different and is super grabby with them, and it’s always a pain in the tush to get used to new glasses anyway, so I probably haven’t been trying as much as I should do to make the time to wear them either. I’m on that.


Dylan pretty much comes straight to bed with me, we don’t even try and force him to go in his cot at the moment, as he just screams and bangs his head against the side on purpose. It seems ALL of his back teeth are now coming through, poor little guy.


The one morning when I had just a couple of hours sleep, I popped him straight into the travel cot with some toys so that I could lay down for an hour on the sofa, and in the hopes that when he had his daytime nap that I could catch a few Zzz’s on the sofa, but I struggle to nap during the day (delightful neighbours), but he came and had cuddles with me after that hour.

He does some cute little things now:

  • Either he knocks on a door, or if someone else knocks he says “Come in!”
  • He stood at the door at the weekend while I was at work and was saying: “Mumma. Mumma, come in.” Heart melting. He says Daddy, not sure why he says Mumma instead of mummy as I often refer to myself as, but it’s his thing now, and I’m trying to embrace that I’m not “mummy” but I am “mumma” lol.
  • “Peeeeeeease” when he wants something (please)
  • He’s grasping things, like when we were going to bed one night Gareth was home late so it was just the two of us, I pointed to the cot and asked “Cot?” and then pointed to the bed and said “Bed with mummy?” He pointed straight to the bed.
  • The absolute excitement when Sheriff Callie comes on tv. He LOVES Callie! He squeals and jumps up and down waving his arms and exclaims “CALLIEEEEEEEE!”
  • Trying to put his shoes on himself.
  • His Jake & The Neverland Pirate car which he now adores and likes to scoot around the flat on it (which of course is difficult because of the lack of space, but he’s got turning it around by himself down to a fine art. I just need to remind myself that Dylan is adapting just fine.)

Gareth got a new job which is a huge promotion at his workplace, and though he’s busy he has been loving it so he is happier. And for years I have been using the “Ace Budget” app for iPhone to keep us on track (luckily I was taught well with money and how to budget. I remember when I was looking to move into my flat in 2007, my dad sat me down and went through a budget with me on paper and we made sure I would be able to afford it before I moved. I still use a version of that budget to this day!). It worked OK and I never thought much of it after that as I spent money I logged it in the app against each budget and it did the job. But I heard about “You Need A Budget” or “YNAB” for short, and I decided to give it a go on the free trial. I’m about a week and a half (I think?) into it and I adore it! Though I kept a running total of what YNAB calls “rainy day funds” (glasses, christmas, car insurance, etc) on a spreadsheet and it suited us OK, I’m thinking this is a much better way to go to keep track of everything. I still have my super spreadsheet as that’s my “thing”, but for day to day spending and shifting things around and basically seeing it much better that way, I’m definitely going to purchase YNAB :)

By |May 13th, 2015|Family, General|0 Comments

April 2015

Well this post has been long overdue. I’ve even had all intentions of writing a planner related post, but I’ve had a lot of stuff going on these last few months, for example:

  • The CBT course I took for 6 weeks
  • 2 nieces born
  • Dealing with my anxiety in general
  • Settling into work
  • Housework


I’m still trying to learn how to get by on very little & broken sleep. Just the previous night Dylan didn’t finally properly settle until 3am, and I know I am certainly not the same person because of being exhausted and tired all the time, and it’s hard. So many people comment how tired he looks but for some reason to him sleep is the enemy. I get better nights when he only wakes up twice but for a long time now he refuses to sleep in his cot or only manages a very short period in there, and the rest of the night I’m being kicked in the ribs. Both me & Dylan manage to sleep a lot better when he actually does go down in his cot (that’s the nights he only wakes twice) but they do not happen nearly enough.

He’s had his first “trim” courtesy of daddy while I was at work:

He likes to post things into the VCR, and he liked to wear mummy’s headband (until he snapped it this morning)

I have to double check the washing machine before I put on a wash.

He’s looking so grown up!

and even tries to dress himself!

I have been battling the clutter in our flat. It’s something that has needed to be done for a long time. I read “the life changing magic of tidying up” and started taking a few tips for now just to get things in order to make moving a little easier, when we do move. Then once we have moved we will have a better idea of where things will go and if we need to rid even more things.

By |April 22nd, 2015|General|0 Comments

So long January

My little monkey hardly ever sits still and he has the cheesiest grin! But don’t let it fool you. Within the blink of an eye, he can go from angelic looking to full on meltdown. They fail to mention that the “terrible twos” start from about 14/15 months old! I spend my days running after him, he most certainly keeps me on my toes! As for his sleep, well that is still very much an issue. He refuses to go down, he has split my lip on multiple occasions where the just thrashes about, and when he does go to sleep, he is back up just hours later. It simply seems that he is a bad sleeper, end of. Nothing I could do would change it, so I just have to go with the flow and if it means he ends up in bed with me by about 3am, then that’s what I have to do.

He even got his first shoes. We tried a couple of pairs on him, and the first pair he struggled to walk in as they seemed pretty heavy for his feet so we chose the airplane ones instead. We need to get him remeasured again now as it has been over a month.

On top of looking after Dylan, I have been cooking for the both of us too (seems daddy wasn’t too eager to try the butternut squash soup! My mum is going to try it so is coming over after work to get the last serving and I have 2 pots in the freezer for later) I had never had butternut squash before, but I cooked it anyway. Dylan is funny with his food lately… Unless he can grab it and feed it to himself, he doesn’t want to know, but I managed to get him to have a few spoonfuls and he happily dipped bread in it too and gobbled it up.

And I made some wholemeal cheese straws. All the recipes came from the Ella’s Kitchen Cookbook (both of these were from the RED book, though we have the yellow baking book too. I didn’t get on with Annabel Karmel book, and Dylan adored the Ella’s Kitchen pouches so it seemed a winner!) These are some pretty good straws, and I’m guessing because they are wholemeal, it must be better for us… right? 😉

I have been relying on my planners lots and things are improving anxiety wise :) I have my book checked out of the library for the course which starts on my birthday. I have a lovely gold planner coming from China (£9!) and as my journal went walkies somewhere… Everything seems to be going missing, it’s so cramped in here that some things we are just figuring will be found when we finally move. Any who, as my journal went walkies and I cannot for the life of me find it anywhere, I also bought a “fauxbonichi” and a zippered case to keep it in 😀 That’s what my Christmas money went on. I will be doing a post when it arrives!

By |January 29th, 2015|Family, General|2 Comments